Yeah definitely looking for that. Without getting into it I don’t come from a riding family so there is limited support for the purchase. If it ends up living in the shop and costing a lot of $$ from the get go it just will make things more complicated. Not complaining about the situation just want to maximize the opportunity for a positive outcome that hopefully the spouse will also want to partake in.
That being said I don’t want to hijack the thread. I’m pulling for a good resolution for the OP that will be covered by BRP.
I would have the following advice for you having been in exactly your situation myself (buying a used and very expensive Spyder):
Before considering a purchase talk to other Spyder owners in your area and get feedback as to their satisfaction with the authorized dealers. They should be favorably referred and not too far away. Tour any prospective dealers, look at their shops, count the number of Spyders being serviced (as compared with other BRP products). Talk to the service manager and see if he/she seems to know the product. Typical questions being how much warranty and repair service do they do? What does their service staff look like (with regard to qualifications and experience)?
Buy a used Spyder having an existing, and transferable, warranty. It can be either the factory warranty or aftermarket (B.E.S.T. etc.). Ensure, before purchase, it can be transferred to you and ascertain the cost, if any. If it is not one of the better known warranties I would post the question on this forum and get opinions from others who may have experience with them.
Know that any late model Spyder is a very complicated vehicle which requires both knowledge and experience to work on and not all dealers will have that. Also, from many comments made on this forum, it is my perception that BRP is not satisfactory at providing either the tools or knowledge or commitment should you acquire a lemon on run into a rare problem. With many motorcycles there are usually a plethora of authorized and independent shops. This not the case with the Spyder. Know what you are getting into.
If you are a do it yourselfer also know that the Spyder can be a real PITA to work on compared to almost any other motorcycle and the Spyder dealer in your neighborhood may have labor rates that take your breath away. Consider this if you do not plan to work on the bike yourself. Owning a Spyder, financially, is not in the same class as owning any metric or Harley bike. Think of it as an exotic and ask yourself if you have the ability or desire to farm out any maintenance or repair work with labor rates to match. The number of owners carrying aftermarket warranties on their Spyders may help answer that question.
Given the number of buyers, new and used, who have posted issues with their Spyders on this forum over the past year I would tell you to anticipate a series of issues with any Spyder you buy. They range from "how to ride my Spyder" to "how come my Spyder twitches all over the road" to "my radio reception sucks" to endless questions regarding tire pressures and accessories. Also, strongly suggested is the use of the forum's sponsors to do any farkles associated with electrical or mechanical. Many problems seem to rise up after a new owner installs an accessory that is attached to any electrical circuit or sensor. And you can assure yourself that even your brand new Spyder will need at least a competent wheel alignment (because BRP can't seem to do it consistently or correctly).
Do not assume you can take your Spyder off road or on unimproved surfaces. The fabric drive belt seems to be a magnet for small rocks which can poke holes in the belt causing premature failure (and, like every other part, those belts are not cheap).
Trying to be realistic here and cover all the important bases and not necessarily to bash BRP (other than their customer service which gets virtually no good feedback). Don't be afraid to use this forum or the supporting vendors for information or troubleshooting. Lots of experience here.