I don't understand how someone can feel bullied on an internet forum, or more importantly why someone would let a stranger on a forum make them feel bullied. Heck, most of you here hate me and some of us have had it out, but I've never felt bullied or even given any of it a second thought. Most times its all been laughable, but never personal.
As long as the comments aren't threatening I just don't see it. Some people just have very thin skin. This isn't 5th grade. Sometimes we need to be told we are doing something stupid, or are being a brainless idiot.
While this isn't my show, Heavy handed moderation can be the venom that can take down a forum in short order. One of the "banned" didn't deserve it.....jmho.
I agree. Every time this subject comes up, I'm baffled by it because I just don't see the problem. Everybody's different. Some folks are "kinder" than others. That's just the way life is. I would certainly agree that "threatening" posts have no place here, but I don't believe I've ever really read one of those.
I've learned a lot here, and I truly enjoy this forum. I'm generally not offended by what anyone says. But I guess the posts that simply annoying me the most, are those posts that complain about what other folks have said.
As for the "friendly banter", and even what some folks call "mindless commenting", I probably engage in that less then some others , but I do enjoy reading it. I think it often makes the forum more interesting.
I have found this forum to be informative, entertaining, funny, and sometimes downright nasty. But still, I keep coming back. On my very first post, I was accused of trolling, which didn't bother me because I didn't know what it meant. I have learned a lot here, and made some friends here as well. There will always be haters anywhere, even here. I find the "ignore" function to be quite useful. There are plenty of other forums for these folks, and I hope that they go there. Do what you gotta do Lamont, follow your conscience, let it take you where it will.
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I have been on websites that cap the number of posts a person can make in a 24/hour period and that seems to hold the drivel down. But that is just my opinion. I did post 3 or 4 times today, but that isn't too bad since I haven't been here for such a long time. It is the people who post 3 or 4 times an hour (or more) that drove me away.
I'm already limited to no more than 60 per hour...
What more do you want?
Hi Lamonster,
Love the site and I would like to become a sponsor. I will have a look around on site to see if there are any direct links for this and any advice would be great on how to become a paid sponsor.
While this isn't my show, Heavy handed moderation can be the venom that can take down a forum in short order. One of the "banned" didn't deserve it.....jmho.
I left before when I saw Veteran members treating NewComers "Rude and Crude?"
Not all New members have been on Forums most of their adult days like some here and We Need to treat them Civil and Lead them to Search Methods or Post a link to help them. I remember several new members who were treated "Rude and Crude" that Never Posted again. That's Unfortunate?
[QUOTE=DrewNJ;1032591]I don't understand how someone can feel bullied on an internet forum, or more importantly why someone would let a stranger on a forum make them feel bullied. Heck, most of you here hate me and some of us have had it out, but I've never felt bullied or even given any of it a second thought. Most times its all been laughable, but never personal.
Maybe I'm kind of thick skinned but I have never seen any bullying on this forum as attempted on other forums. I have been around long enough that I can handle my own problems if I feel bullied or such. I come here for information and community with other Spyder Riders. Great Forum.
Okay... I've had my fair share of disagreements in here over the years. Not surprising, when you figure that I've got an opinion about almost everything.
I'm far from innocent in all of the "cookouts" that I've been to; but I've learned some valuable things:
1. If someone points out that I'm wrong about something factual; I'll own up to my mistake.
2. If an opinion that I've expressed is based upon a false assumption; I feel that it's fair to admit that, and learn for the experience.
3. Arguing about opinions and beliefs, is a HUGE waste of time and effort. You won't change anyone else's mind, and they're sure not going to change yours. Simply agree to disagree, and move on.
4. I'm trying to follow a simpler philosophy now...
So far; so good!
A BIG +1!!! I've learned a whale of a lot about Spyders from this forum and think a lot of us would be SOL without it and at the mercy of whomever we have to deal with in solving problems or getting answers that aren't answered in the operators' guides.
Artillery lends dignity to what would
otherwise be a vulgar brawl.
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Not surprising, when you figure that I've got an opinion about almost everything.
I don't have an opinion about anything! Just expressions of thought based on accurate assessments!
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I am posting on this thread just to let everyone know ................................. I have not been banned (yet).
And i do not think that you could bully me, i have an "IGNORE BUTTON" at my disposal.
But there are some people on here that could feel like they are being bullied so i will agree with Lamont on the need for better monitoring.
As far as serial posters ......................... Hey if you don't like reading their rhetoric ................... Ignore Them, personally i enjoy the useless banter on most occasions.
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I don't think that the "cereal" posters are the issue here.
It's when folks feel "uncomfortable" about how they perceive their treatment... That's the name of this game.
So...
If you treat folks the way that you would want them to treat you...
If you offer encouragement for a project, or for the results of a project...
If you offer solace and kind words, when it might help...
If you offer an alternative to a choice that they've made, in a way that makes them not feel as if their choice was wrong...
If you offer real help, when a technical problem is presented...
If you can get somebody pointed in the right direction, when they ask a question...
I don't think that the "cereal" posters are the issue here.
It's when folks feel "uncomfortable" about how they perceive their treatment... That's the name of this game.
So...
If you treat folks the way that you would want them to treat you...
If you offer encouragement for a project, or for the results of a project...
If you offer solace and kind words, when it might help...
If you offer an alternative to a choice that they've made, in a way that makes them not feel as if their choice was wrong...
If you offer real help, when a technical problem is presented...
If you can get somebody pointed in the right direction, when they ask a question...
(IMHO...)
Sounds like campfire and roasting marshmallow time.
I don't think that the "cereal" posters are the issue here.
It's when folks feel "uncomfortable" about how they perceive their treatment... That's the name of this game.
So...
If you treat folks the way that you would want them to treat you...
If you offer encouragement for a project, or for the results of a project...
If you offer solace and kind words, when it might help...
If you offer an alternative to a choice that they've made, in a way that makes them not feel as if their choice was wrong...
If you offer real help, when a technical problem is presented...
If you can get somebody pointed in the right direction, when they ask a question...
(IMHO...)
This post makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside. Well said!
I don't think that the "cereal" posters are the issue here.
It's when folks feel "uncomfortable" about how they perceive their treatment... That's the name of this game.
So...
If you treat folks the way that you would want them to treat you...
If you offer encouragement for a project, or for the results of a project...
If you offer solace and kind words, when it might help...
If you offer an alternative to a choice that they've made, in a way that makes them not feel as if their choice was wrong...
If you offer real help, when a technical problem is presented...
If you can get somebody pointed in the right direction, when they ask a question...
In the end it simply comes down to individual humans and how they would act if they knew no one could see them.
The vast majority of people act in a civil manner in a public setting. They do so because society has taught them that not acting civil has consequences. The least of which, no one wants to be friends with you. The worst, you go to jail.
Along comes the internet with anonymity for all.
It's scary what people will say to each other when they know that there are no consequences.
They will say horrible things and chuckle in front of their computer screen, as if it is some kind of victory, while they type words they would NEVER, EVER, say to the anonymous person they are replying to if they met them face to face.
I love this forum. I might not post for months but I am always checking in and watching.
It really comes down to how you act. If you are a d-bag and want to defend your elitist or anecdotal idea at all costs, I suggest you visit reddit. They will welcome you.
If you want to share knowledge and encourage people, please stay here. Be advised that you will need to share knowledge over and over again on different posts, as so many of the best ones have.
Originally Posted by DrewNJ
I'm already limited to no more than 60 per hour... 
Okay... I've had my fair share of disagreements in here over the years. Not surprising, when you figure that I've got an opinion about almost everything. 
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it was fun while it lasted.
