Update on my Daughter

[Bytemi]

So my daughter has her first full therapy session last night without me or her step father in the room with her. The therapist said she listened and seemed to be taking everything seriously. Which is great news. We have spent the last week doing home therapy every night for 30 minutes. I didn't expect to see improvement this early and I was not disappointed (the doctor said we should start seeing improvement in about 8 weeks). She still just doesn't seem to be able to control her body. If her eyes move, her legs and arms move, if her leg moves her arms and eyes move and so on. If you think about it is a little freaky, but I will never tell her that. I am proud of her for trying so hard.

So this morning when she came running into the bedroom and said, "Did I do good enough at therapy to earn a ride on the Spyder to Camp?" How could I say no. I told her to put on jeans and pack a pair of shorts to change at camp. I went downstairs and her helmet was already on and she was wearing her jacket. "I am ready Mommy, this is going to be great!" So I geared up we started on the 1.5 mile ride to camp. She held on like there was no tomorrow LOL.

When we got to camp, I got off the Spyder and started helping Antonia get her helmet off, another parent looked at her and said "that looks like fun!" but as she walked away with her son she said "You will never be on one of those!" and walked inside. I got a number of dirty looks and one parent ran into the office to talk to the director pointing at us the whole time. I stayed while Antonia changed and then took her jeans with me. I got a huge hug and an "I love you Mommy, your the best!" before she ran away to play with the other kids.

As far as I know, I am not doing anything illegal. Is this another moment where I have to say "I don't know how I survived to adulthood". My Step Dad use to take me out all the time on his Harley and we didn't stick to 35 MPH zones. Is it unsafe for her to be back there? I really think the Spyder is a great incentive for her to stay focused on therapy.

 

[Bob Denman]

I'm glad to hear that your daughter is working hard and has earned some extra "Spyder Rydes" as a result... :2thumbs:
Here's to continued success! :cheers: :thumbup:

 

[dmdahnert]

You will get the looks...

Bytemi, you might get the looks and glances from everyone because there are many out there that believe younger children should not be on bikes. It doesn't matter if it is a Spyder, GW trike or what...they will decide they can "judge" and believe it to be an unsafe activity. I'm not a lawyer or LEO but as far as I know, it is not illegal to have her ride behind you. She is decked out in a helmet and protective clothing and hanging on tight...exactly as she should. I say if it helps with therapy and you're comfortable with her riding with you, go for it. What better kind of mother-child bonding can you have but experiencing something you both love, together? Ryde on and enjoy together and just remember to keep endorsing the safety stuff with your daughter and don't worry about the critics. They have nothing better to do with their lives and may be a bit "jealous".

Diana

 

[murphybrown]

An awesome reward

Way to go MOM :thumbup:

 

[dabreitbach]

If you are following the laws in your state you are fine. Those other clowns are just nuts. Good for you.:thumbup:

 

[shelbydave]

:thumbup::thumbup: I've been searching NC laws to see if there was an age cutoff, and haven't found one. We've debated on whether to get our grandson a helmet. Kudos to you for doing this for your daughter! I wouldn't worry about other parents, as long as you're legal... I wonder what kind of guy I would have been if I based my life actions on everyones approval...:barf:

 

[Bytemi]

I just want to make sure that I having the balance of a good reward with her safety. I am sure everyone here will agree, the last thing you ever want to do is put my daughter in danger.

 

[pellcitypete]

So my daughter has her first full therapy session last night without me or her step father in the room with her. The therapist said she listened and seemed to be taking everything seriously. Which is great news. We have spent the last week doing home therapy every night for 30 minutes. I didn't expect to see improvement this early and I was not disappointed (the doctor said we should start seeing improvement in about 8 weeks). She still just doesn't seem to be able to control her body. If her eyes move, her legs and arms move, if her leg moves her arms and eyes move and so on. If you think about it is a little freaky, but I will never tell her that. I am proud of her for trying so hard.

So this morning when she came running into the bedroom and said, "Did I do good enough at therapy to earn a ride on the Spyder to Camp?" How could I say no. I told her to put on jeans and pack a pair of shorts to change at camp. I went downstairs and her helmet was already on and she was wearing her jacket. "I am ready Mommy, this is going to be great!" So I geared up we started on the 1.5 mile ride to camp. She held on like there was no tomorrow LOL.

When we got to camp, I got off the Spyder and started helping Antonia get her helmet off, another parent looked at her and said "that looks like fun!" but as she walked away with her son she said "You will never be on one of those!" and walked inside. I got a number of dirty looks and one parent ran into the office to talk to the director pointing at us the whole time. I stayed while Antonia changed and then took her jeans with me. I got a huge hug and an "I love you Mommy, your the best!" before she ran away to play with the other kids.

As far as I know, I am not doing anything illegal. Is this another moment where I have to say "I don't know how I survived to adulthood". My Step Dad use to take me out all the time on his Harley and we didn't stick to 35 MPH zones. Is it unsafe for her to be back there? I really think the Spyder is a great incentive for her to stay focused on therapy.

I have to say that there are IDIOTS every where I took my nephew to the atlanta aqurin a couple years ago(he has muscular disterfey duchane) he was 14 at the time for years he had to take steroids to help keep his musels from turing to fat and save his life. so he looks like he is fat he no longer can walk no musels in leggs the pople there made comments like all he needs to do is loose weight.an they wouldn't get out of the way so he could get to handicape space.sorry for the long responce but my blood pressure gets up when pepole stick there nose in when they don't kwow :cus: I started ridding my neice when she was 2 setting in my lap she is i'll say over39 loves to ride an is good at it If your daughter loves to ride and it helps her do it and tell those IDIOTS where to go:clap:

 

[dannymax]

There's always plenty of people who think they have the right to judge other peoples behavior...IMO, they don't.
Sounds to me like you're a good Mom, caring for your daughter the best way you can. Keep up the good work, and good luck with the therapy!! :thumbup:

 

[Bytemi]

:thumbup::thumbup: I've been searching NC laws to see if there was an age cutoff, and haven't found one. We've debated on whether to get our grandson a helmet. Kudos to you for doing this for your daughter! I wouldn't worry about other parents, as long as you're legal... I wonder what kind of guy I would have been if I based my life actions on everyones approval...:barf:

My husband said I worry too much about other people. Its not that I want approval from everyone, I just don't want to miss something. I guess I think if people are going to have that strong of a reaction, maybe I did not full think things out. Does that make sense?

 

[Robertsepolen]

I say " Good Job"
Saftey first. My son in law has been riding with is dad since he was a little guy. When other say " make sure you look good",he says make sure you are safe. He played a big part in getting my wife and I set up right when we started riding.

He brings forth a lot of " youthful experience that many "foolish" Adults dont have.

Enjoy your daughter! That is priority number one! Your love will make you protect her.
Good Job!

 

[Bob Denman]

I guess I think if people are going to have that strong of a reaction, maybe I did not full think things out. Does that make sense?

It makes perfect sense, but you didn't miss anything; there's just an awful lot of idiots out there who like to do nothing more than rain on somebody else's parade... :gaah:

 

[shelbydave]

My husband said I worry too much about other people. Its not that I want approval from everyone, I just don't want to miss something. I guess I think if people are going to have that strong of a reaction, maybe I did not full think things out. Does that make sense?

Probably the best thing to do, and I intend to do the same concerning our grandson, is to contact the police dept to see if you are breaking any laws. After all - they're the only ones who really count... If it's legal, and it is good incentive for your daughter, you have your answer, and the rest of the world can take a flying :cus: at a rolling donut...

 

[Leslee]

I'm not sure if this is correct, but we've heard that if she can put her feet on the passenger foot pegs, she will be considered "legal."

 

[arntufun]

Great to hear things are going well for your daughter and who gives a :cus: about those mini van drivin people that are giving you dirty looks. :thumbup:




Please please please get a backrest for your bike !!!!!!

I'm not trying to preach and you only rode 1.5 miles, but the Spyder is way tougher for a passenger than any two wheeler is because it wants to fling the passenger off by design. If anyone trys to dispute this fact, they are ignorant. A backrest helps hold them on termendously and will help with arm fatigue from such a tight grip needed just to remain on the bike.

Holly would never ride my Spyder without ours because she said it's the Spyder naturally wants to send her flying off around every turn. We are talking RS's here, so RT riders have 0 clue about how bad this is because thier passenger is locked in on the back.


BRP sells a great one and when you want to ride alone with the sporty look it comes off in mere seconds and your bike will look sexy again. If you want, I will have Holly log on and have her explain this further as only a RS passenger could. This post was not intended to upset you, but only provide knowledge from someone that rides an RS with a passenger. Besides the fact that I think you freaking Rock girl and I know you would never want anything to happen to little Bytemi !!!! :thumbup:

 

[zrc]

I would not be concerned. But much like the conversation you eluded to earlier, I can assure that there are people out there that would try to demand that children not ryde.

To me it sounds like she listens, and follows directions so learning now is more than enough.

There will always be people that frown on anything you do, this time around its just they are going to think your a bad parent, however, they have no idea what your situation is and what is happening. So in my personal opinion, screw them. I got to 34 fairly easy, and I road inbetween my mom and dad standing up in a truck cab. Im fine, and in my opinion they are the best possible set of parents I could have _ever_ had.

Our country is great in that we have many freedoms. HOWEVER, I am always concerned when people shake their heads and want to call DCS or get involved in the lives of others. There was once a line that did not get checked enough, and now other people and the authorities can come WAY into your business and dictate what you do.

I am proud of you! and her! And if you have parents locally that have issues, have them call me, they will be endlessly disappointed that they did, in conjunction I would APPLAUD you for being a great parent that has a child that understands hard work leads to reward and that given reward requires more work (listening, safety gear, doing her part to be safe). All of these pieces will make her a better person and someday she will be sitting in a situation talking about how great you are like I talk about my mother and father.

 

[Bytemi]

Great to hear things are going well for your daughter and who gives a :cus: about those mini van drivin people that are giving you dirty looks. :thumbup:




Please please please get a backrest for your bike !!!!!!

I'm not trying to preach to you, but the Spyder is way more dangerous for a passenger than any two wheeler is because it wants to fling the passenger off by design. If anyone trys to dispute this fact, they are ignorant. A backrest helps hold them on termendously and will help with arm fatigue from such a tight grip needed just to remain on the bike.

Holly would never ride my Spyder without ours because she said it's the Spyder naturally wants to send her flying off around every turn. We are talking RS's here, so RT riders have 0 clue about how bad this is because thier passenger is locked in on the back.


BRP sells a great one and when you want to ride alone with the sporty look it comes off in mere seconds and your bike will look sexy again. If you want, I will have Holly log on and have her explain this further as only a RS passenger could. This post was not intended to upset you, but only provide knowledge from someone that rides an RS with a passenger. Besides the fact that I think you freaking Rock girl and I know you would never want anything to happen to little Bytemi !!!! :thumbup:

Yes, I know I need the back rest for the little one. I have looked into the harness but they are just as expensive as the back rest. With the cost of therapy I just don't have it right now. We really didn't expect to be writing a check for thousdands of dollars up front. That is why we are sticking to the 1.5 miles to camp right now. She loves the ride and I never get above 35 MPH. I accelerate slowly and in turns she moves when I move.

I completely understand what you are saying, I am just trying to find the right balance right now. It is a 3 minute ride to camp on pretty much deserted roads because we leave so early in the morning. I will get a back rest, just can't do it right now.

 

[2 Cruysyn]

What kind of message did the kid get when one second his mother was telling your daughter how fun it looked and the next she was telling her son he'd never be on "one of those." Really? Get a life mom!

Safety first. ARNTUFUN makes a good point particularly if you are going to take your daughter for a "ryde." A backrest will go a long way in keeping your passenger in place. Won't hurt to have a conversation with your local LEO either. Bottom line; "For those who understand, no explanation is needed. For those who do not understand, no explanation is possible." Go make some memories with your daughter.

 

[Bob Denman]

Holly would never ride my Spyder without ours because she said it's the Spyder naturally wants to send her flying off around every turn. We are talking RS's here, so RT riders haveno clue about how bad this is because thier passenger is locked in on the back.

:shocked: I THINK that I might have just heard Randy say something almost nice about RTs!!

 

[arntufun]

:shocked: I THINK that I might have just heard Randy say something almost nice about RTs!!

Bob, during Americade Holly had her second chance to ride on the back when Rnet and I took off for a power ride. I thought she was going to leave me for that RT guy that was 25 years older than me. I thought women go for younger men, but now I'm not so sure. :roflblack:
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