Where? I cannot travel miles and have my wife follow to pick me up, then bring me back when the byke is ready. Do I stay at the shop for 8 hours waiting? Will they even have it out in one day? TELL ME WHERE THIS KIND OF SUPPORT FOR A SPYDER IS IN NOVA? get to ryde it there? With it In limp mode? Don't think so...
Wardawg: one option is to call or better visit a different Spyder dealer in the area (I gave you two-- Pete's Cycle up in Baltimore is a third, Fredericksburg Motor Sports is a fourth) and explain to them your problems. Just be your friendly self and walk them through how it rides, explain what the other techs told you (don't be judgmental, just the facts), and ask if they can offer a second opinion with same-day service (the latter being important-- you might have to "schedule" an appointment, and it might not be the most convenient of times, but this way you may be able to get in and get out).
If you *can* ride it not in limp mode, you can take it there, get it checked out, and take it home. If they think they can address it with more work, then yes, you may need a ride home, but you'll at least have some peace and mind after up and close and personal with a Spyder tech(s).
Also, while I'm uncertain about the area's Spyder dealers, many motorcycle dealers IME do local pick-up and deliveries for a nominal fee. Yes, it's money, yes it sucks, but it solves your transport problem.
But if you can't get a dealer to do it, I used this guy to transport my Spyder down from the dealer I bought it from up in Philly, and since then a friend of mine has used him to transport his ancient Suzuki to the shop:
http://www.dcscootertransport.com/
Owner's name is Tom, friendliest guy, he's very experienced and VERY helpful. He's also a little loud from not wearing earplugs

. He'll do curbside pickup with his trailer and turn it around ASAP for a reasonable flat fee and mileage.
Again, good luck...