It sucks to get old.

[spyderCodes]

Warning this is going to be a depressing rant and if you'd rather not read a rant hit the next arrow.

I am in good health.
My wife is in in good health.
Of course anything can happen at anytime to anybody.

My rant is this.
We are losing good friends.
I lost my Best Friend (other than my wife) a year ago and Glo is losing her Best Friend (other than me) as we speak.
And it sucks.
Sucks Big Time.

There are no words that can console her, no platitudes that can be of use.
We are of that age.
Once believing we were invincible, now realizing quite the opposite.
Why am I choosing to subject you to this?
I suppose because I consider you some kind of family.

 

[PrairieSpyder]

I'm so sorry for yours and Glo's losses. ray:

Like someone said in that video about advice at any age: Always have friends younger than you, so at least those friends won't die before you!

 

[garb55]

Sorry to hear about your friends passing
Friends can be lost at any age
I have lost good friends even back in high school and it can be very hard
No one can say anything that can help
But you can be there when Glo needs you
don

 

[Deanna777]

Sorry to hear about your friends passing
Friends can be lost at any age
I have lost good friends even back in high school and it can be very hard
No one can say anything that can help
But you can be there when Flow needs you
don

:agree: Deanna

 

[SPIDR1]

Keep enjoying life!

I am also in that same life mode. After having 2 heart valves replace and a by-pass, my goal is to keep going. Our group is now up to 17 riders and we plan to go out together once a week for lunch. Yes, we are all family and the best of friends. All I can say is that life is great!

Warning this is going to be a depressing rant and if you'd rather not read a rant hit the next arrow.

I am in good health.
My wife is in in good health.
Of course anything can happen at anytime to anybody.

My rant is this.
We are losing good friends.
I lost my Best Friend (other than my wife) a year ago and Glo is losing her Best Friend (other than me) as we speak.
And it sucks.
Sucks Big Time.

There are no words that can console her, no platitudes that can be of use.
We are of that age.
Once believing we were invincible, now realizing quite the opposite.
Why am I choosing to subject you to this?
I suppose because I consider you some kind of family.

 

[ARtraveler]

Hang in there Roger. :bowdown:

 

[Bob Denman]

Roger,
I'm sorry that you and Glo are experiencing this, and our thoughts and prayers are coming your way. ray:ray:
There's no doubt that this is probably one of the roughest parts of living...
We lose people along the way that mean the World to us. :shocked:
It hurts... and it makes us hurt.
I've taken the view that I would never want my friends to feel bad about my passing.
(Although some folks might just "pop some corks" on that day... )
I'd rather that they remember the good times, and celebrate a life, rather than mourn another loss.

That's how I see it...
After all: nobody really dies, if they are remembered by their friends and loved ones.

 

[Chupaca]

Sad news...

Totally understandable rant, if that's what you want to call it. It is tough and the only consolation are the memories cause in the end that is what we are...a wonderful bunch of memories to those who knew and loved us. So always keep in mind you did make a best friend but a whole lot of memories. Hang on to those and they will always be with you...ray:ray:'s to you both...

 

[Commander]

Sorry for your lossray:ray:
Its not a Rant it is reality, we are all in the same boat. ray:ray:to you your family and friends.

 

[Highwayman2013]

Sorry to hear that Roger, I just lost a riding buddy 2 weeks ago. A group of us retired types ride to breakfast every Tuesday, long live the geezer riders!

 

[cyclelover63]

Good post Roger...Life is short,and we don't realize it until there is more behind us than in front of us..I have always said,if you think you have it bad,go to a waiting room in a childrens' hospital,or just look in the hospital bed next to you..It does suck when you finally realize it and start thinking about it...What better way to go out than what we are all doing?..We are meeting new friends most every time we ryde our Spyder,we are making memories,spending time with our friends and spouses, and we are doing something our kids think we are a little bit nuts doing while not acting our age. What better way to escape this life!:yes:

 

[BoilerAnimal]

Time waits for no one. Remember, yesterday is a cancelled check and tomorrow is a promissory note..........today is cash, spend it wisely.

 

[Peter Aawen]

I am sorry for your loss, & I truly understand (& sympathise - I've been there too!) But the thing that gets to me most about 'getting old' is that it seems to happen waaayyy too soon!! :sour:

I mean, here I am, in the prime of my life.... orright, I copped a few injuries during my time, but I was young & indestructible back then, I recovered quickly & just got straight back out there! And now the 'after effects' of service life & those injuries have the unmitigated gall to suddenly force massive changes in my life & I'm not ready for them to do that yet!! Yeah, yeah, I know that the cumulative damage from back then meant I first had to 'retire' from the military, then retire from all full time work due to the ongoing effects & accrued disabilities, but in my 'retirement' I could & did still DO stuff, albeit a bit slower & maybe sometimes not going quite as high, or as deep, or doing quite as well as I used to (only 98's instead of 100's & I never really missed anything!! ) but the bad days & the pain was all just something I lived with & worked around, it didn't really stop me doing anything much, just changed the urgency of when I did things & maybe impacted on the quality a tiny bit! But now, my body is really telling me to STOP & just sit the F#*! Down!!

The heart damage that jumped up & grabbed me earlier this year did slow me down a bit; but I promise you I listened, I was being careful, I was taking it easy, & besides, the Drs did say I could do anything I felt up to doing, they assured me my heart would tell me if I shouldn't do it.... & what's a little chest pain between friends when you are doing the things you always did & you've lived with & managed pain for more than 30 years?? So what's the go with this bloody 'massive pulmonary embolism' crap that I've now got blocking some stupidly high percentage of both lungs as well?!? :shocked: They told me they thought it was impossible, just shouldn't have happened - I was on their freaking blood thinners already, TWO types mind you; & I was fit & active?! I excercised daily, almost the same circuit I used to do back when I wore a uniform, a wet-suit, or cams every day & I was young & indestructible (ok, ok, maybe it wasn't quite the same exercise program, but I still covered all the fundamentals!! ) & I passed their stupid stress test just a coupla months back with flying colours (didn't break a sweat but I broke their damned treadmill!!) and then not a month ago it's a full on lights & sirens trip in to ICU for a week or so & then they're telling me it's just the underlying fitness that meant I even made it to the hospital, I really shoulda died (again!! :sour: ) & I hafta be thankful that I'm even here to complain, let alone leaving the hospital after less than 6 months, even if I am on stoppage of lifting 'anything heavier than my tooth-brush' & I'm never to exert myself or actually do anything cos the slightest bump or fall could kill me, but I hafta keep active! :shocked: Yeah, right?!?

So what's the go with this getting old rubbish?? I'm still young(ish), aren't I?? My hair's only grey cos I've worked hard for a few decades in some pretty tough conditions, I've still got a (mostly) full head of it, I haven't put on (much) weight; & besides, it's only the young girls & kiddie cops on the streets these days (when did they drop the Academy entry age to 16??) & the freshly shaved squaddies just outta recruit school that fill the ranks at the ANZAC Day parades that look soooo bloody young!! (At least I get to ride during those Parades these days, I'm sure it's a lot longer Parade March than it used to be?!) Everyone else looks just as young or old as they always did (except for that old fart who 'mirror bombs' me every morning?? ) And it's only cos some of the fella's have better things to do now that the recent School & Service reunions have been any less well attended than they used to be, isn't it?? Altho I am sorta glad they stopped numbering them after we passed all the '40th' reunions?!? Numbers any bigger than that just make you feel old, & I'm not ready for that yet - are you??

And why do I hafta slow down? Be careful? Take a 'nanna nap' every afternoon even tho I didn't get up until waaaay past sunrise?? Swallow more damned pills than flakes of All Bran & Corn Flakes every morning, then back up & do it again for supper?? And what's with having to stop to have a break after walking from one room to the next?? So I can either walk, or talk, or even breathe for <#~@'s sake, but just one of them at a time, I never get to do any two of them together!?!? I won't go on from there, some of you are obviously too young to hear anything about what fella's & girls can get up to!!

So all up, I'm just not ready to get old!! But I guess it's not all bad, my Doctor did OK Spyder Ryding, cos after all, it's really just a High Speed Mobility Scooter, isn't it?! :thumbup:

 

[Netminder]

ray:ray: I agree, very hard to lose people close to us. Yes it sucks to get old!

 

[Deanna777]

I am at point in my life, that I want to spend more time with family, friends riding my spyder. Life is to short! Crossings things off of my "Bucket list".

Deanna

 

[garb55]

I am at point in my life, that I want to spend more time with family, friends riding my spyder. Life is to short! Crossings things off of my "Bucket list".

Deanna

No No No
I don't have a bucket list
because if I cross everything off I might kick the bucket :yikes::yikes:
I am 18 going on 70 :yes::yes::yes:

 

[Bob Denman]

:shocked: I think that if we had even dreamed that we'd live this long: we ALL would have taken better care of ourselves along the way. nojoke

My Grampa Denman had a saying:
"There's nothing really wrong with getting old; it's just a bit unhandy at times."

 

[Trbayth]

Both my parents (my mother mostly) spent the last years of their lives looking back at all the things they wanted to do but didn't get the chance to do. I did what I could, taking my mother to her first baseball game and her first hockey game when she was in her late 60's.

After the experience of tending to my parents at the end of their lives (I have no siblings) I promised myself that as long as I had the financial and physical wherewithal I would get out and do things so when I no longer could I would have no regrets.

 

[Bobleach45]

Know what you mean

In the same situation. I just turned 71 and wife will be 69. To top it off we live in a 55+ community. People passing away, going to assisted living or nursing homes or just going to live near their kids. Fortunately for us, we live a 1/2 from our son and grandchildren who moved to FL shortly after we did 18 years ago. That helps a lot but still feel it every time someone near you passes. Sometimes I look back on all the great times we've had which we are so thankful for and that helps the acceptance of getting old somewhat. Be thankful for everyday that you can wake up seeing the green side of the grass and are able to go out and be a part of those around you.

 

[Bob Denman]

I promised myself that as long as I had the financial and physical wherewithal I would get out and do things so when I no longer could I would have no regrets.

Leave nothing on the table, and no stone left "un-kicked"! :clap: :2thumbs: