I think there is a certain amount of "cache" that belongs with a HD. I rode one for years and loved it all. However, I made a well-considered decision to no longer ryde on 2 wheels. This is for my safety as well as others. Another motorcyclist does not need to consider my decision but, believe me, they are safer on the road because I'm on a Spyder and not another 2-wheel bike. I remember when trikes were considered.......amusing.
Frankly, as a woman of a certain age I could give a rat's arse what any other rider thinks of me. Some people are friendly, some are not. Some are curious about my Spyder, some are dismissive. I always try to acknowledge other riders simply because I respect the decision for us to be out there and take the risks and live the adventures.
I love my Spyder and I think it rocks!