Harry, I don't think you stepped on any toes. You might have stirred some passions, but I doubt anyone's toes are damaged in any way. Certainly no need for apologies.
Your question was a proper one, and would be on the mind of any touring rider thinking of moving to a new platform. I hope you found the answers you were looking for. As you are obviously aware, there is a reason that every motorcycle made comes with a toolkit...and no, unfortunately the Spyder does not also come with BUDS.
I had more than my share of trouble with my RTS, but it absolutely never left me stranded or broken down. I will admit to a few cuss words and a bit of worry, however. Despite that, I am getting another one. I still own my 80K BMW as an alternative, so that should tell you something about how I feel about the Spyder RTS...it is well suited for the work and is plenty strong enough to handle the road. Looking at problems posted here, most of the difficulties, including mine, have been other than electronic. I also think that the number of Spyders with serious problems is few compared to the number on the road. I hope that eases your mind.
Best of luck with your decision...and welcome