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    my wife says she liked my idea about the younger girlfriend

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    It just ain't everybody's cup of tea...
    Try the Parking Lot exercise, and see if limited exposure in controlled circumstances helps her to grow accustomed to the feeling.
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    Quote Originally Posted by trucker1 View Post
    Try to find some other spyder people to ride with. Make sure they and their wives are together. Maybe if she sees them together and she can talk to some of the other riders it might ease her mind some.
    Of course you are welcome to visit our Sacramento Spyder Ryders of America Chapter where you will find lots of couples you and she can ryde with. That might make a difference for her if she makes friends with other passengers. As Ann suggested you can always buy her a Spyder of her own! awe have two and it's expensive but fun! PM me if you want to know more about Sacramento SRA!
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    Quote Originally Posted by msherwood View Post
    are there any other folks in this site that have the same issue and how did you handle it.
    Thanks in advance
    Yes. But I knew the situation a LONG time ago.

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    [QUOTE=youngers;1324815]
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    I got rid of the wife,,,lol

    hahahaha I see , if the photo is your new riding partner , you now went with the " chick magnet " riding buddy !
    That chick magnet in my profile is my wife, LOL

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    Ask her if she would like to try driving it. Some enjoy driving more than riding.
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    Quote Originally Posted by msherwood View Post
    Ok folks I bought this beautiful 2013 RTL so my wife and I could go out and see this beautiful country of ours together only to come to the conclusion she will not ride, are there any other folks in this site that have the same issue and how did you handle it.
    Thanks in advance
    My wife will ride short distances with me when there is little or no traffic. When we want to go somewhere distant she sometime follows in the car and sometimes we put the Spyder on a trailer. When we get to our actual riding area then she comes with me.

    And of course many times I ride alone but I have been doing that most of my riding life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 4 MARIE View Post
    I would be thrilled to still have a wife (alive) either at home or on the pillion.
    I am sorry for your loss. It is a hard thing to lose your companion. My 1st wife has also passed away,in 2007. I was very fortunate to marry again. I met my 2nd wife on the internet and we have now been married 9 years.

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    Quote Originally Posted by msherwood View Post
    Ok folks I bought this beautiful 2013 RTL so my wife and I could go out and see this beautiful country of ours together only to come to the conclusion she will not ride, are there any other folks in this site that have the same issue and how did you handle it.
    Thanks in advance
    My wife wouldn't ride at first; said she would never ever get on the bike. Well, about 3 weeks of me being gone all day changed her mind! When she rode for the first time, I took it easy and after that I can't keep her off. She will love it, just give her some time.
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    The predominant view expressed here is that with tact and persuasion the OP's wife will ride. Looking around the local GWRRA chapter I can full well understand that sentiment. Out of 30+ members in the chapter nearly half are wives. That puts me, as a wifeless rider, in a small minority. But don't assume that every wife can be persuaded to become a rider, or co-rider. They can't, or won't. If the OP's wife has the hidden genes to be a rider, and he can ferret them out, great. You guys have offered some very good suggestions to try to dig them out. But don't keep encouraging him to dig for them if they aren't there, even if you are convinced they've got to there somewhere.

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    People (including the female variety) are either adventurous or not. My current (4th and final) wife is a backpacker, caver, kayaker, backcountry skiier - you name it. When I met her 12 years ago, she didn't know I was 'between motorcycles'. Then, I came home one day with one and she was aghast. She had never ridden one and forbade her sons from riding them, believing all the nonsense that's out there about the danger (well, maybe not all nonsense). Anyway, she tolerated what I thought would be a solo experience until she discovered from one of the gals in her office that there's a whole social world out there around this sport and that not all 'ryders' fall into the 'biker' category.

    In other words, with experienced and responsible riders, there's social acceptance, even pride, in riding and touring particularly. So, not one to be left out, she went with me on a 4-day ride with the local motorcycle club to Jackson, Yellowstone, Targhee and back to Park City and she was HOOKED! She's been riding with me ever since and this year got her own Spyder (the Cognac one). Her family is amazed and impressed, particularly her sons and grandsons, who have yet to take up ryding (but you know it's just a matter of time).

    Anyway, if your wife is adventurous AND she feel confident in your ryding skills AND she doesn't want to be left at home, she will come around. It helps if someone in your social circle also rides. Otherwise, spare yourself and your wife a lot of grief - just go on some 3-wheeled adventures solo each year and be grateful your wife is understanding of your passion.
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    Four?
    They're just like potato chips...

    At least you kept going until you got it right!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bob Denman View Post
    Four?
    They're just like potato chips...

    At least you kept going until you got it right!
    That sounds like a subject for another thread, and I don't mean potato chips.

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    Herr's Ketchup-flavored...
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    Bob just said what everybody else was thinking. But it sounds like Pete landed on his feet and has someone to share life with. Humans aren't meant to be alone. I am one of the lucky ones and found my saint 44 years ago and she loves to ride as much as I do, so much she went out a bought her own bike.
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    But I bet that she'd tell all of us that she's the lucky one!
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    Quote Originally Posted by SPECTACUALR SPIDERMAN View Post
    my wife says she liked my idea about the younger girlfriend
    She must know something the younger gal doesn't!

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    The stories in this thread remind me of how I got back into motorcycles, at about age 50, after not having ridden since high school. My husband suddenly announced he was buying a Harley. I stated that he was not buying a Harley, that wasn't in our plans. We went back and forth for a few minutes with many repetitions of "I'm getting one. No, you are not." Then, he said, "I'll get you one too." I said, "Okay."

    He called his brother and said, "I've solved the motorcycle problem."

    I put about 50K miles on my Harley, right up until I bought my Spyder in July, but I rarely rode alone. Most of the miles were on road trips across the US and Canada with my husband. But with my Spyder? I'm commuting to work, and will ride alone or with him at the drop of the hat. Both Harleys are gone now, but he's still on 2 wheels...though I'd love to get him on 3.

    I can't really respond to the OP's post, but I have never been a passenger on my husband's motorcycle. I guess I'm the controlling sort. (I normally lead when we ride, too.)

    Good luck!

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    There are plenty of people who wanted to do the same thing,
    When I want to go for a ride and she don't I kiss her goodby and go.
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    Quote Originally Posted by msherwood View Post
    Ok folks I bought this beautiful 2013 RTL so my wife and I could go out and see this beautiful country of ours together only to come to the conclusion she will not ride, are there any other folks in this site that have the same issue and how did you handle it.
    Thanks in advance

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