Riding with spouse

**marcojolo** · 10-04-2015, 09:51 PM

So I finally got a spyder. I got the F3 and it was no easy feat talking my wife into letting me get one. She has taken a few short rides with me around town and seems to enjoy it. I would LOVE for her to get her own F3 and her and I do some longer rides......even day rides would be fun. I live out in the middle of nowhere in Montana and there are tons of places to ride out here where there is virtually no traffic. My question is to those of you who ride with your spouses or significant others. Do you ride two up or on separate bikes? What are the pros and cons of both and what do your partners prefer? I would love nothing better than to get my wife a spyder next year and for us to ride to the Glacier national park or the black hills or beartooth pass etc. Thanks for any info or insight you can give me. If I can't get my wife to ride with me I guess I will have to wait until my 10 yr. old boy is old enough to ride......He LOVES riding with me now. Anybody ride with their kids??

**4 MARIE** · 10-04-2015, 09:57 PM

My wife always wanted to be chauffeured. She wanted her camera, and drink, and intercom.
Because I was responsible for BOTH our safety, I took the driving responsibility seriously.
With one machine you cut risk in 1/2, for breakdown OR accident.
I know you folks will work it out. Happy Ryding.

**SpyderAnn01** · 10-04-2015, 10:03 PM

The only downside to having your spouse ride his/her own machine is your gas mileage gets cut in half. But I'm fine with that!

**Chupaca** · 10-04-2015, 10:07 PM

you say it was tough getting this one by her...what was the objection..?? Ryding double and each on their own are totally different. It will depend mostly on the wife. Mine loves ryding with me and does it well. Talks about driving but thats it. Looks like you both need more travel time before you get another...

**marcojolo** · 10-04-2015, 10:32 PM

Originally Posted by Chupaca

you say it was tough getting this one by her...what was the objection..?? Ryding double and each on their own are totally different. It will depend mostly on the wife. Mine loves ryding with me and does it well. Talks about driving but thats it. Looks like you both need more travel time before you get another...

What are the main differences as you see them?

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**SpyderAnn01** · 10-04-2015, 10:37 PM

You said that you would love for her to have her own Spyder but how does she feel about it? If she isn't excited about it on her own, you can love it all you want but it isn't going to change how she feels.

**ARtraveler** · 10-04-2015, 11:24 PM

I used the sneaky method. Got Akspyderlady on the

by having her ride with me. We did 10,000 miles that summer. By summers end, I got her to try riding the

herself. Fortunately, I had two wheels for myself at the time.

The next season I traded in the two wheels and got her a

for herself.

We both have extra padding and it was sometimes uncomfortable for me and my bad back for us to ride two up. A

for each solved our problems.

As mentioned above, the only problem we now have is twice the gas for all our rides. If money is not an issue, separate

's are the way to go IMO.

**HIspyder** · 10-04-2015, 11:28 PM

Only one downside to my wife riding as a passenger... She can see the speedometer. Nuf said.

**ARtraveler** · 10-04-2015, 11:38 PM

Originally Posted by HIspyder

Only one downside to my wife riding as a passenger... She can see the speedometer. Nuf said.

Have a little fun if you dare. Switch the speedo from miles to KM prior to boarding. When your going 62 mph the speedo will say 100. If your on those famous 50 mph Kauai roads--should be about 90 KM or so.

**pegasus1300** · 10-05-2015, 12:07 AM

If we are going long distance my wife prefers to follow in the car and then ride in the area when we get there. She will ride short trips with me but not longer ones. When we were shopping for our Spyder she talked about being able to drive it herself but other then run it around the block once that hasn't happened.So I would say that be sure the wanting the 2nd Spyder is her idea not yours.

**flaggerphil** · 10-05-2015, 12:43 AM

My wife and I ride two up, though she has her endorsement and can ride if needed. But she prefers to stay on the back.

**Bob Denman** · 10-05-2015, 06:37 AM

I've been trying for years to get my Missus into the "Front Chair"...
She's also happy being Chauffeured around, and I've had to accept that.

If she had her own bike; I'd worry about her... probably the same way that she worries about me, when I'm out of sight....

**Gray Ghost** · 10-05-2015, 07:01 AM

My wife and I both own two wheelers. And we own a Spyder. Sometimes we ride separately, sometimes we ride two up on two wheels, sometimes we ride two up on three wheels. When we ride two up sometimes I am in front, sometimes she is. It all comes down to personal choices. When we first started off, she told me that she would never be able to ride her own. I eventually got her to take the MSF course because learning how to ride a motorcycle would make her a better passenger and give her knowledge of how to take care of the situation should I be incapacitated for some reason. She completed the MSF course and immediately asked when we could go to a bike store.

**Vt. Rider** · 10-05-2015, 07:09 AM

My wife has always enjoyed being the passenger. She has her own snowmobile and ATV and has her endorsement for the Spyder. She has driven the Spyder and does like it, but not enough to have one of her own, which I wish she would. Then I could go back to 2 wheels.
Had a GL1800 for 13 years and rode all over the country. She would read, sleep or just enjoy the scenery. She also understands that riding a machine solo is much easier than two up......yet she wants to stay on the pillion.

**MisterP** · 10-05-2015, 07:13 AM

My wife has no interest in riding her own bike, regardless of brand. Give your spouse or sig other a chance to figure that out, before pressuring them to ride. Not everyone wants to be their own driver.

**easysuper** · 10-05-2015, 07:43 AM

My wife was fine riding two up and then decided it would be a good idea if she got her indorsment incase I got sick or hurt when we were touring. Her girlfried had a sprder and they went out to some abandon parking lots and she taught Ellie how to ride as my wife had never riden a motorcycle by herself, she had crashed her bicycle several years ago and ended up in the hospital and had no desire to ride two wheels. after putting 1,200 miles on our RTS she took it in for an oil change and bought her own. So she started riding at 64 a year ago last August and has 22,000 miles on her RTS Limited. So the morale of the story is dont let your wife take your bike in for an oil change. And she get to shop for cool stuff to wear !

**Bob Denman** · 10-05-2015, 07:53 AM

Originally Posted by MisterP

My wife has no interest in riding her own bike, regardless of brand. Give your spouse or sig other a chance to figure that out, before pressuring them to ride. Not everyone wants to be their own driver.

Although she will admit that she wishes that the ride was warmer back there...

I keep telling her that she only needs her permit, to take the ride from up front!

**marcojolo** · 10-05-2015, 08:14 AM

Thanks for all the replies!! I guess the moral of the story is gonna be to be patient and let the wife decide for herself if she wants to get her own bike or not. In the meantime I will try to enjoy the spyder as much as I can by myself and with her when she wants to go for a ride.....

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**ndspyderlover** · 10-05-2015, 08:23 AM

Originally Posted by marcojolo

So I finally got a spyder. I got the F3 and it was no easy feat talking my wife into letting me get one. She has taken a few short rides with me around town and seems to enjoy it. I would LOVE for her to get her own F3 and her and I do some longer rides......even day rides would be fun. I live out in the middle of nowhere in Montana and there are tons of places to ride out here where there is virtually no traffic. My question is to those of you who ride with your spouses or significant others. Do you ride two up or on separate bikes? What are the pros and cons of both and what do your partners prefer? I would love nothing better than to get my wife a spyder next year and for us to ride to the Glacier national park or the black hills or beartooth pass etc. Thanks for any info or insight you can give me. If I can't get my wife to ride with me I guess I will have to wait until my 10 yr. old boy is old enough to ride......He LOVES riding with me now. Anybody ride with their kids??

I tried riding two up with my wife but something happens in the rear of the bike when i do. I get a terrible squawk and whine when she is back there. I haven't figured out what it is yet

**Red RT-S** · 10-05-2015, 08:23 AM

We bought our Spyder 3 years ago and at the time my wife suggested we get an SE5 so that in the event she wanted to drive that would be possible. Since then she has never even tried to drive it, much less think about getting her endorsement. Maybe that will change (but I doubt it) since I got sick on our trip earlier this summer and we ended up spending a few days in Branson while I was in the hospital. She had to take a cab back and forth to the hospital from our motel. One of the reasons she said she might learn to drive was so she could drive in case I was someway incapacitated. So I will repeat what others have said; before making the investment be sure she is 100% on board with it and you are not making the purchase to satisfy yourself. That being said, we ride 2-up on an annual trip of from 3K-7K miles in addition to some local rides. She sleeps or just enjoys the scenery. Sleeping isn't a real problem (she has arm rests to hold her in) but it can be a bit annoying having her helmet hit the back of mine and having her leaning forward against me.

**EAGLE27** · 10-05-2015, 08:24 AM

Originally Posted by easysuper

My wife was fine riding two up and then decided it would be a good idea if she got her indorsment incase I got sick or hurt when we were touring. Her girlfried had a sprder and they went out to some abandon parking lots and she taught Ellie how to ride as my wife had never riden a motorcycle by herself, she had crashed her bicycle several years ago and ended up in the hospital and had no desire to ride two wheels. after putting 1,200 miles on our RTS she took it in for an oil change and bought her own. So she started riding at 64 a year ago last August and has 22,000 miles on her RTS Limited. So the morale of the story is dont let your wife take your bike in for an oil change. And she get to shop for cool stuff to wear !

Totally off the subject; what type of dog trailer do you have??

**Bob Denman** · 10-05-2015, 08:29 AM

Originally Posted by marcojolo

Thanks for all the replies!! I guess the moral of the story is gonna be to be patient and let the wife decide for herself if she wants to get her own bike or not. In the meantime I will try to enjoy the spyder as much as I can by myself and with her when she wants to go for a ride.....

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Try letting her take an active role in choosing your destinations and routes.

**Pirate looks at --** · 10-05-2015, 10:05 AM

So we both share the front seat. When we bought the Spyder I told my wife that I wouldn't buy it if she would not share the driving duties. Now we find the front seat is a bit crowded. We keep thinking about another Spyder........just not sure we have another $30,0000.00 lying around!

**Bob Denman** · 10-05-2015, 10:30 AM

You don't have to have the money laying around; that's what good credit ratings are for!

**Pirate looks at --** · 10-05-2015, 10:46 AM

My problem is that I have really good credit and I could pick up the phone and buy one.....still have to make those monthly payments!

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