Introvert or Extrovert - which are you?

[UtahPete]

Might explain a lot of the miscommunication going on these days ...?

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine...?utm_source=eb

Personally, I'm very much an introvert. Overbearing extroverts and bullies I tolerate only just so much before blowing up.

[johnsimion]

Also introvert but I don't think introvert/extrovert has anything to do with being overbearing or a bully.

[2dogs]

But, if Jonathan is an introvert he's sure full of himself.

[Lew L]

Might explain a lot of the miscommunication going on these days ...?

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine...?utm_source=eb

Personally, I'm very much an introvert. Overbearing extroverts and bullies I tolerate only just so much before blowing up.

Pete------ please don't blow up.


Lew L

[ARtraveler]

Introvert. Now leave me alone.

[asp125]

Git off mah lawn!

[canamjhb]

I don't want the world to know so I can't answer the question. Meanwhile, let me just sit here in peace and quiet.

[loisk]

Good read, Pete.
Also enjoyed the article it highlighted at the bottom - pc culture - food for thought.

[Bob Denman]

I'm neither: I'm just friendly, and full of questionable humor!

[UtahPete]

I'm neither: I'm just friendly, and full of questionable humor!

I'd say this avatar is introverted, but others have been just off-the-charts extroverts as I recall

[Holly]

Is this one of those Trolling threads Firefly was talking about ??????? I'm still on the lookout for those little buggers..........


#trollpolice

[TicketBait]

Life can be a lot more simple when you place labels ................however there is a draw back for doing such. Communication is where the breakdown occurs through labeling ideas and attaching them to people. Hence, People stop listening to opposing views, even though they may have so much else in common. I am sometimes an introvert, and sometimes an extrovert. And also too many more labels to list. So I disagree with much of what the article implies.

More to say....but ran out of time. Will revisit to see what others have to say.

[UtahPete]

Life can be a lot more simple when you place labels ................however there is a draw back for doing such. Communication is where the breakdown occurs through labeling ideas and attaching them to people. Hence, People stop listening to opposing views, even though they may have so much else in common. I am sometimes an introvert, and sometimes an extrovert. And also too many more labels to list. So I disagree with much of what the article implies. More to say....but ran out of time. Will revisit to see what others have to say.

I think of labeling as what some people do to others in order to denigrate them (e.g. redneck, liberal, religious fanatic, heathen, un-American, etc). I don't think of identifying oneself as a certain type of personality trait as 'labeling' but rather as a way of better understanding ourselves and others.

But, I accept that some folks find that offensive or counter-productive or whatever.

[wyliec]

I think of labeling as what some people do to others in order to denigrate them (e.g. redneck, liberal, religious fanatic, heathen, un-American, etc). I don't think of identifying oneself as a certain type of personality trait as 'labeling' but rather as a way of better understanding ourselves and others.

But, I accept that some folks find that offensive or counter-productive or whatever.

So, if I call you Dr. Freud, am I denigrating you? Or, am I saying you always seem to have an opposing view to get into a discussion to keep it going? I don't think either question is denigrating you. Or, they are not questions, but statements, and I am denigrating you.

[UtahPete]

So, if I call you Dr. Freud, am I denigrating you? Or, am I saying you always seem to have an opposing view to get into a discussion to keep it going? I don't think either question is denigrating you. Or, they are not questions, but statements, and I am denigrating you.

I'm not sure how to respond. I think if you were to draw simplistic conclusions about me from my introverted orientation, that would be labeling and denigrating.

[UtahPete]

Might explain a lot of the miscommunication going on these days ...?

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine...?utm_source=eb

Okay, so here's my theory as it relates to behavior on the off-topic forum.

I think a lot of participants who get caught up in heated arguments are introverts who would not engage in the same way if it were to take place in a social setting. They either would not be in that social setting in the first place, or would keep their thoughts to themselves rather than engage in verbal combat with the extroverts. But the distance, both virtual and actual, created by the online forum, provides the opportunity for introverts to engage, disengage and reflect as they wish. There is no immediacy or social pressure as there would be at a real gathering.

[wyliec]

I'm not sure how to respond. I think if you were to draw simplistic conclusions about me from my introverted orientation, that would be labeling and denigrating.

I'm not talking about the introvert/extrovert label that you may have placed on yourself due to self-denigration. I'm talking about reading your posts here and how you seem to react.

[UtahPete]

So, if I call you Dr. Freud, am I denigrating you? Or, am I saying you always seem to have an opposing view to get into a discussion to keep it going? I don't think either question is denigrating you. Or, they are not questions, but statements, and I am denigrating you.

Okay, well this is getting a little off-topic, but maybe not...

I think I impulsively question the accepted conservative viewpoint. I'm very much a contrarian and skeptic. It served me well as a management consultant but in most social situations it does not, probably because I am an introvert.

[Bob Denman]

You're not a "contrarian"; you're just a miserable old S.O.B.!

But I say it with pure love in my heart!

[Fatcycledaddy]

Might explain a lot of the miscommunication going on these days ...?

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine...?utm_source=eb

Personally, I'm very much an introvert. Overbearing extroverts and bullies I tolerate only just so much before blowing up.

I don't think an introvert would have started this thread, much less have 4,251 post in 34 months, or almost 95 post per month.

[UtahPete]

I don't think an introvert would have started this thread, much less have 4,251 post in 34 months, or almost 95 post per month.

Then I think you misunderstand about introverts. Please read the article again, as well as my post this morning.

Introverts aren't necessarily unsocial or uncommunicative.

[Fatcycledaddy]

Then I think you misunderstand about introverts. Please read the article again, as well as my post this morning.

Introverts aren't necessarily unsocial or uncommunicative.

I read the article, I agree with your statement, but most do not go out of their way to be social and communicative.

You thrive on posting, getting people to, as you call it, have stimulating conversations, I call it arguing.
You let everyone know your opinion on every topic that comes up, whether they want it or not.
I am not saying all of that it bad, but I don't see that as the dominate characteristics of an introvert.

As stated below.

Introverts and conflict

by Michaela | 9 comments

It’s no secret that introverts dislike conflict. We would rather stay silent than rock the boat. We tend to favor avoidance over confrontation. If the choice is between fight or flight, we usually choose the latter. Some of us will even go hungry trying to dodge a potential clash (I’ve dropped entire dress sizes while avoiding angry roommates).

[Bob Denman]

There's this thing out there (and it's NOT on the internet); called "Tact".
Used it properly: you can tell somebody to go to Hell, and actually have them looking forward to the trip!

[Fatcycledaddy]

There's this thing out there (and it's NOT on the internet); called "Tact".
Used it properly: you can tell somebody to go to Hell, and actually have them looking forward to the trip!

I am still working on that, being tactful I mean!!

[UtahPete]

You thrive on posting, getting people to, as you call it, have stimulating conversations, I call it arguing. You let everyone know your opinion on every topic that comes up, whether they want it or not. I am not saying all of that it bad, but I don't see that as the dominate characteristics of an introvert.

And you are being judgmental, I think. You don't know me at all but you're ready to draw conclusions about me based on my activity on this forum. Introvert is only part of who I am. Another part is someone who learned long ago that I need to speak up and be counted if I want to get anywhere in life.

So, although my preference is to avoid open conflict in social situations, and I avoid social situations where conflict is likely or inevitable (thankfully I don't have to go to work in an office anymore), that doesn't mean I am unwilling to exchange ideas in a meaningful debate.