Kindred Spirit -- Kindred Heart
Netminder .... I know your pain. My mother is also 91 and suffered a serious fall last September; 1 week in hospital and 3 weeks in respite care were needed. Because she lived at home and alone, the Social Worker would not release her to go home until round the clock care was set up. Fortunately, already had a working relationship with "Seniors at Home" in San Francisco and they were able to provide two aides (one of which is there 24 / 7 now). My mother is whip smart and keeps her mind active, it's just her body is old and tired -- but, I prefer to keep her at home as long as possible. She will be happier and healthier at home ... I know that ... but it is still difficult to see her decline. I don't see it every day, nor every weekend, as she is in California and I am in Texas (and that presents a whole new set of challenges ... as I'm sure you can imagine).
Anyway ... you are not alone in facing this difficult time and I pray for your father, for you, and for your family. Peace be with you ... Ann