No forgiveness needed, but I do encourage you to use the search to see all the threads where this is discussed so you get a full range of views.
In short, on the Spyder, the general experience is that the stock anti-sway bar permits too much sway -- as noted by another poster, the give/play you feel when taking turns at speed.
I'm not an experienced motorcyclist, but I certainly noticed the issue -- I would get a bit of an uneasy feeling in the pit of my stomach as the bike would pitch or dive before responding positively in a turn. BajaRon makes a more rigid after-market anti-sway bar and links to reduce/eliminate that issue. I had it installed in mine, and immediately noticed the difference. The bike just feels locked and stable in turns the way you want it to feel.